the effects of being outcast

When you are shunned by a group, chemicals in your body react as if your very life is in danger. That's because for a long long time your body would have been: expulsion from a group very often meant death for much of human history.

Your body itself responds. We love to say "it doesn't matter what people think," and "find your own family and people," and YES absolutely. 

But we must always remember that deep human design is still very much within us all.